Throughout my years of life I have come to learn that having that altruism or being that nice guy in a way to being affectionate with others has always ended up in a failure. I'm not afraid to admit that I have never been in a long term relationship and I mean never. I mean I guess I can count the one I had after high school that lasted for like 2-3 months but its so funny how that one ended up. You guys want to know...it was because I was too nice of a guy, HA! I have noticed that a lot of girls that I may want to bring into my life I've been rejected by and I look back at some of those girls to see what guys they may have been with or they are with and I guess I don't get it and I just shake my head. I know that I'm not compatible for everybody but I guess what kills me is that I hear, "You know you will make a great boyfriend/fiance/husband," and they usually come from the girl I get rejected by. See for some reason I end up making a lot of "Girl Friends" as in girls that are my friends and I will admit that some of those girls that become my friends I get to know better cause we're friends and later I find that this person is actually a person I like to like on a LIKE LIKE basis, lol. In other words I like how that person is personality wise and may be attracted to them. Now some people have the mindset that pursing a friend is all bad news cause it will end the friendship and that may be true but I also believe that your companion should be your "Best Friend." That's somebody you feel comfortable with, you don't mind being real with, you don't mind sharing secrets with, that's why I pursue those people cause it just makes sense to me. It really is just common sense honestly but this is just an opinion of mine.
As I have pursued those friends of mine by proposing the idea I have managed to remain friends with most of them and I'm glad but yet I still become frustrated to how a man who has a College Degree, was active in numerous activities, held executive positions, made Deans list for the last two years of his collegiate career, graduated as the Top Male Student from his university, made a successful move to Los Angeles, CA (a fast paced area) and has managed to make a life in pursing his career (in under a year) oh and overall is just a nice gentleman remains to be single or overlooked or just viewed as the "Nice Guy."Isn't this what women talk about...when they say all the good guys are gone...what happened to them, huh? I am a firm believer that things happen for a reason and maybe it's God's way of telling me that I just need to continue the race cause he has my best interest at the end, I mean he's been too great to me so far. The saying is nice guys finish last and I believe that and that they finish last with the gold not empty handed cause good things come to those who wait but I'm just wondering when my race will come to it's last stretch and when will the Nice Guy finally finish? End of Venting Session.
I leave you with the song that was on repeat while I was writing this post.
Nice guys only finish last with women who have no self worth. A woman with no true self worth will always want a "bad boy"...she would rather have a guy shut the door in her face than to open it for her because those actions are a direct reflection of how she feels about herself and what she feels she deserves.
ReplyDeleteThere of plenty of women in the world who know their self worth and would love to find a companion like you and in my world... nice guys always finish first.